What is the most important thing in life? Well my friends there are many great answers to that questions, but let me key you in on something… it’s accountability. When it comes to living life you can either be the victim or you can be in control and responsible for your actions.
First let’s take a look at just defining the word. According to Dictionary.com:
Accountability: The state of being accountable, liable, or answerable.
Accountable: Subject to the obligation to report, explain, or justify something; responsible; answerable.
Now let us take a look at how it pertains to you and your lifestyle. You see when someone owns up to their actions that is being accountable. When you always have a reason or excuse though, then you are being a victim.
Being the Victim & Victim Statements
When I was younger and through the first portion of my adult life this was a problem that I unknowingly suffered from. I always felt the need to try and explain why things did not work or what went wrong in whatever processes I was working with.
It wasn’t until I went through a sales training where the instructor was talking about eliminating victim statements and being accountable for our work, that I started on a journey to fix things. While it was a profound day of learning for me, it would still take some time for me to realize how often I actually did play the victim.
It would come to fruition for me a few years later when I was working on not getting angry at the video games I was playing. I often yelled or griped about the game and I had realized that I was not setting a good example for my kids, so I decided to make a change. As I worked on that process of calming down it became apparent to me how often I was actually making up excuses.
It was at that point that the little lightbulb popped up over my head and I was able to tie in the training from the past with the current situation that I was in. When I started being more accountable for my actions and stopped the excuses I found that it helped me tremendously in moving forward.
I remember that I would often argue that my victim statements were just stating a factual truth, which they were to some extent, but I learned that I could trace it back to myself for getting into the situation in the first place. Once that realization happened, I was able to begin a process of growth to avoid future reoccurrences.
I used to love to play the Madden NFL Football games as I was very passionate about the sport. However, when playing the game I would often cite excuse after excuse for the bad things that happened to me in the game.
Excuses varied from griping about the programming of the game to pointing out that I just didn’t see the coverage right. Sometimes my statements were made in anger and sometimes not, but they were all victim statements.
As I began to make changes to my behavior for my kid’s sake I began to not only calm down, but I also started being more accountable for my actions in the game. In doing this I found it much easier to learn from my mistakes and get better at playing.
Now you can see that by eliminating the negative anger and victim statements I was able to start progressing forward with accountability and positive growth in their place.
Actions + Accountability = Growth
I have talked about The Importance of Learning From Mistakes before, but want to take this time to expand on that now via Accountability. By owning all of your actions and especially mistakes, you put yourself in a position that you can then learn from them in a positive fashion.
Mistakes themselves will do their best to hide in the shadows and make you repeat them over and over in hopes that you never learn from them. When you become accountable for your mistakes, it gives you the power to learn from it much easier as it effectively brings it into the light for you.
Once you have learned your lesson, you are then much less likely to ever repeat the mistake as you are more aware of it. On top of that you are now fully aware of the actions and consequences of that situation, so it gives you the opportunity to make informed decisions before taking actions.
As you continue to take ownership of your actions, you will see more and more growth in your life. As you continue to grow with accountability at your side you will find traversing life just becomes a bit easier.
Thoughts Versus Actions
There is almost always a whirlwind of things going through our minds on a daily basis at any given time. However, we can only be defined based off of what actions we so choose to take.
What I mean by this is that we cannot always control what pops up in our minds. However, we have absolute control over how we decide to act upon them. Once we do act upon them, that is like planting seeds in that we will reap what we sow. This is also where we build and define what role Karma plays in our lives.
This is why the Golden Rule plays such a prominent role in my life. Before I act on things, I work to make sure that I am acting within the guidelines of the rule. This allows me to make sure that Karma plays a positive role in my life and allows me to be a positive role model for the world around me.
It is also important to remember to see the bigger picture before reacting to just bits of information. This why I have a dedicated page in my menu above for Perspective. Being patient in your decision making process and seeing the whole situation will allow you to act much more appropriately.
Accountability = Importance
As you can see now, this is why being accountable for yourself plays such a vital role for you in your life. It creates a positive framework for you to create your life around and that is why it is in my opinion the most important thing in your life.
Without it, life itself becomes much harder to accomplish anything as you drift aimlessly throughout the sea of life. However, once you start owning your actions it will allow you to accomplish great things and to learn so much. It is certainly a solid foundation for you to build off of.
Share Your Story
Before you go, I would like to ask you to share your story or your thoughts with us in an effort to help us all grow. Has being accountable helped you in your life or do you have a good perspective that you could share about it? Please let us know!
If you liked this article, here are some others that I think you would enjoy as well:
- The Importance of Learning From Mistakes
- The Golden Rule
- Managing Emotions in the Decision Making Process
- Good Karma – Bad Karma, What is it All About?
- 20 Characteristics of Emotionally Healthy People
James W D