Have you ever heard the phrase that every dark cloud has a Silver Lining? have you ever really thought about just exactly what that means and how it can affect your life? Well then, let us take a deep look into this and see what is going on.
The Basic Principal
So what is the definition of a Silver Lining, Wikipedia states:
“a metaphor for optimism in the common English-language idiom – Every cloud has a silver lining”
Since they use another big word there with Metaphor, let’s go ahead and define that too:
“A metaphor is a figure of speech that identifies something as being the same as some unrelated thing, thus highlighting the similarities between the two.”
The basic gist of it all is that even when bad things happen, there is always some good that goes along with it. However, one thing I will point out is that every Silver Cloud also has a Dark Lining. We live in a world of balance between good and evil, light and dark, or however you want to look at it, you just can’t have one without the other…
Balance Between Opposing Forces
Let us take a deep look into how life on earth operates in a balance. For many years now I have always been the person that states you have to have the bad days to enjoy the good days. What I mean by that, is if everyday were a good day then they would all be the same and that would no longer be good, but rather be neutral.
Just like when it comes to Love and the saying that you don’t know what you have got until it is gone. While some think that Hate is the opposite of Love, I actually think it is Loss. You can be with someone and think that you Love them, but you don’t truly understand that Love until you have suffered Loss. So if you never experience any type of Loss in your life, it will be very hard for you to truly understand what Love really means.
Another example of opposing forces and how they affect you could easily be seen with video/computer games. Have you ever heard someone playing a game make a statement about the game being impossible?
I have three kids, all of whom enjoy gaming, and have heard this time and time again. Each time I hear it I take the opportunity to remind them that if the game were easy (or not challenging) then why would they even play it.
Games are designed to keep our attention and to provide challenges for us to overcome. If they are too easy, then we beat them and move onto the next game as this one is just not as fun anymore. So in essence you have to have that challenging/frustrating moment within games to really find the enjoyment in them. Think back to a time where you or someone you know got past that point where they were stuck, how did they feel afterwards? Elated I would bet.
How The Cloud Linings Affect Our Emotions
In looking at the examples above I am sure that you can already see how the various cloud linings that we encounter in life will affect our emotions. Not only do they affect us, they are an integral part as to how our emotions even work. I have often found when trying to explain this it is best to use examples. In light of that, let’s take a look at some.
More often than not people consider me to be optimistic or always looking for the positive, or silver lining, in any given situation. For me, life is all about perspective and I believe that focusing on the good things leads to a much happier life. I can look back at several bad moments in my life and while they were bad at the time, I can now see how positive they really were.
For example I once lost a very good paying job and for years afterward I learned how to live life with only half of the income that I once had. So in that particular situation I was very thankful for losing that job as it taught me how to manage my finances much better than I had before (not to mention my jobs afterwards were all much less stressful too).
Just the opposite, someone that is pessimistic will always be looking for that dark lining in the clouds no matter how silver they may be. These people have a harder time enjoying life as they tend to worry about things that more and likely won’t happen. To them however, the chance that something could go bad is overwhelming to them and thusly they tend to focus on that. What this does in reality though is give that bad thing a bigger probability to actually happen.