If there is one thing that everyone has in common, it is that we all make mistakes. However, not all of us understand the importance of learning from mistakes. Today I will delve a little bit into this thought and share some perspective with you.
Learning From Your Mistakes
We all learn from our mistakes to some degree as it is a natural mechanic for us to do so. However, taking that to a more conscious level can be very beneficial in your journey this life. More often than not, this is one of our most powerful learning tools.
From a young age we use trial and error to begin our journey through life. Whether it is learning how to walk with our first steps or whether it is learning what is an appropriate way to interact in social situations, we are always remembering internally what works best for us. In other words, we are products of our experiences both positive and negative.
One of the most important things you need to know is that we all make mistakes. What makes the difference is when you learn how to accept your mistakes and take ownership for them. Once you do this you greatly increase your opportunity to learn and put yourself in a position to not have to repeat the mistake.
Often you will see people repeatedly make the same mistake over and over. When someone is doing this they are denying the fact of the mistake. Once they do take ownership of it though, you will notice that the repetition of it will cease. You see once we can admit to and learn from a mistake, then we will no longer be doomed to repeat it.
Learning From Other’s Mistakes
This is something that I myself took longer in life to really come to realize just how this aspect works. It wasn’t until I started to take a more in depth look at my life and the path I had taken to get to where I was. Even then, I didn’t fully realize what I was doing.
I had become thankful for several events and people in my life that were at the time considered negative. From people that just did not respect me to losing a very well paying job, I began to appreciate them instead of harboring ill will against them.
First, I had realized after losing a good job how to better manage my financial situation. I had also been sent down a path of self discovery and improvement because of this loss. A few years later and I was telling everyone how thankful I was for losing that job instead of not being happy about it.
Secondly, there were several people throughout my life in my younger years that for whatever reason paid me no respect. This was something that at the time I really struggled with and it often made me very angry. Fast forward to more recent times and once again I have become thankful that these people were in my life.
You see it was the imperfections in the others that actually led to me gaining strength, knowledge, and character. I respected people more now because I understood how it felt to be treated disrespectfully. I am more fair with others in the workplace because I understand it is not always fair. I have gained a ton of knowledge and understanding from experiencing these failures and mistakes by others.
Failure Means One Step Closer to Success!
Humanity has long been plagued fear of failure. However, this is right along the same lines as learning from our mistakes. You see we fail at things by making mistakes when we attempt to do them and with each failure we learn how not to do something. With each failure we then get one step closer to succeeding at our goal.
So how do we get over this fear of failure? By understanding that failure is just a natural learning process and one that we all traverse through. Just like learning from mistakes, it was mistakes or trial and error that led to the failure.
What this all boils down to is having the right perspective for the situation. Sure we don’t want to fail, but it is going to happen even to the most successful people. By making a conscious effort to take ownership of your actions and learn from them, you can take a negative experience and make something positive out of it.
Why is This All so Important?
When I look at the world right now I see a war of Negativity versus Positivity. It feels like we are on the brink of being able to take that next step as a civilization and move forward in a more positive manner. With each individual that learns from their mistakes and embraces their failures, the army of positivity grows!
This is how one person can make a difference in the world. By being accountable and setting a positive example, you tip the scales ever so slightly in a positive direction for all of us. The more of us that follow these examples the more the scale tips in a positive direction.
Once enough of us get on the right side of the scale, then humanity itself can begin to learn from our collective mistakes and failures. This will be the key for us to move forward into a better world rather than to regress back into a dark age.
Share Your Story…
Let me get things started here with a story of my own to share.
“When I first became a retail store manager I was excited to lead my team to success. However, I would soon find out that it was not as easy I as thought it would be.
I had seen how many other managers had acted in my region and I thought I could roll right along like they were. I started not being as punctual as I used to be and soon after I paid the consequences.
First my employees started running late as well. You see they were quite happy to see my example and took that as flexibility to do what they wanted to rather than what they were supposed to be doing. Then word got back to my boss and I had to own up to my mistake.
However, I used this opportunity to really learn how my team would come to follow my examples over what I may have been saying. I was then able to use that knowledge to set a better example for my team, which led to a very prosperous time for our store.”
I made my mistake, but rather than let it get me down I was able to learn and grow from it. What mistakes or failures have you had in your life that you were able to learn from? How have these lessons helped you become the better person that you are today? Please share with us in the comment section below!
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James W D