In today’s world the are many of us out there wondering how to be happy in life, especially with so much negativity prevalent throughout the world. Well, to help answer that question I am going to teach you about the power of living with intent.
What is Happiness?
Before I share my perspective with you, let’s take a look first at what the definition of happy is. According to Dictionary.com:
As you can see, this is a basic feeling that we are all striving for as we want to be able to live a good life. I have never met a person that when asked if they want to be happy that said no. Simply put, happiness is the emotional state of being that we all want to be living in. So if we all want to be happy, why aren’t we?
First I would like to talk a little about how we tend to focus on life and how that can really change our emotional state of being. What I mean is that we make choices everyday as to where to apply our focus and it is very easy to trip yourself up if you are not paying attention.
Life is all about balance, we have to experience the negative side of life to really appreciate and enjoy the positive side of life. If we are constantly putting our focus on just the negative side of the scale, we end up tipping it to that side and sabotaging our own state of happiness. It is important to focus on the positive side while maintaining an awareness of the negative side.
One area that I have struggled with this in my life is when it comes to money. After losing a really good paying job I never got back to that level of income and learned a lot about managing money ever since. However, that process left me jaded against money and for a while I basically just hated money and wished that we could live without it.
I focused so much on all the stresses of not always having enough money that it left me drained and frustrated. As I continued to work on this problem I learned about being more grateful for the things that I do have in life and to let go the other stuff. That is when things started to click for me and I started to see a change on the horizon.
The more I focused on the things that I could do with money that I had, the less stress I started to have over it. On top of that I started making more money not long after and the more I appreciated it the more it came. I learned that by living with the intent of being productive and grateful for what I had, I could create a life I wanted.
The Power of Intent
As this snowball continued to roll for me I experienced many “aha” moments and the one that shined the brightest was to live with the intent of being productive. I started coming into each week and verbally telling not just myself, but those around me and in my social media that I was going to have a productive week.
Notice that I didn’t say that I was going to be productive at work, at home, or on any of my side projects… I just said that I was going to be productive. I chose to focus on this because when I am productive and have accomplished things, it makes me happy.
At first it was hard to notice, but as time went on and I continued down this path I could look back and see fantastic results! Not only was I doing great at my sales job and earning extra commissions, I was also getting stuff done at home and on my side businesses.
The other amazing bit was that I went from not having enough time to work on everything, to having extra time on my hands. I even started playing an online game again with my son and his friend. Where was all of this time coming from though? The reality was that I stopped wasting time dreaming about how I wanted my life to be and started living the life that made me happy.
Wishing, Wanting and Making it Happen
This is the process that I actually went through as I made these changes in my life. I went from wishing that I didn’t have to worry about money, to wanting to make more, and now I am just making it happen. I just had to work through these different stages until I took control of my life.
Having a wish or desire like that is definitely okay and can help motivate us. Many of us have all kinds of wishes about how we would like to live life. The problem is though, that when we wish something was in our life, we are not taking any action to bring it to fruition. The same could be said for wanting something as well.
In the end though, unless we take the reins of life and start to steer it in the direction we want to go, we will drift aimlessly though the sea of life. Sure you could get lucky and your wishes and wants just happen into your life, but the odds are a longshot at best.
Keep Moving Forward
So what is the moral of the story here? Well it is that by living with intent you are taking the bull by the horns and living the life that will make you happy. Sometimes you need to just take a step forward, even if it is just a baby step it is still progress.
Sure we will still stumble along the way in this process, but even those mistakes are things that we can learn from. If you haven’t already seen it, I would highly recommend that you read my article on The Importance of Learning from Mistakes.
As a matter of fact, there are a couple other articles that I have written that go very well with this subject. In no particular order:
- Why You Should Be Grateful in Life
- What is the Most Important Thing in Life? Accountability
- Even Little Steps Are Progress
- Enjoy Little Things Life Gives You, it is What Matters the Most
- How to be Appreciative by Being Open Minded
Also, one book that really helped me to turn the corner in life and start down this path that I have blazed is Life on the Other Side by Sylvia Browne. If you are looking to live a more fulfilling life and one that can allow you to be happier, then I would definitely recommend that you check it out. The link provided here will take you to my review of the book and the impact that it had on my life.
How Have You Brought Happiness into Your Life?
Before I go, I would like to ask you to share your story with us on how you have helped yourself live a happy life. What was your “aha” moment or what methods work for you? By sharing them here you can help to make a positive difference and with each comment shared we will make the world a better place.
Also, please feel free to ask questions whether here on the comment section or via email. I will always do my best to give you an honest answer and provide whatever guidance that I may be able to.
Thanks for stopping by,
James W D