How to Be Happy in Life – The Power of Living with Intent

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In today’s world the are many of us out there wondering how to be happy in life, especially with so much negativity prevalent throughout the world.  Well, to help answer that question I am going to teach you about the power of living with intent.

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Living with intentions will help you to lead a happy life.

What is Happiness?

Before I share my perspective with you, let’s take a look first at what the definition of happy is.  According to Dictionary.com:

definition-happy

As you can see, this is a basic feeling that we are all striving for as we want to be able to live a good life.  I have never met a person that when asked if they want to be happy that said no.  Simply put, happiness is the emotional state of being that we all want to be living in.  So if we all want to be happy, why aren’t we?

Focus, Focus!

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Focus on the good and be aware of the negative.

First I would like to talk a little about how we tend to focus on life and how that can really change our emotional state of being.  What I mean is that we make choices everyday as to where to apply our focus and it is very easy to trip yourself up if you are not paying attention.

Life is all about balance, we have to experience the negative side of life to really appreciate and enjoy the positive side of life.  If we are constantly putting our focus on just the negative side of the scale, we end up tipping it to that side and sabotaging our own state of happiness.  It is important to focus on the positive side while maintaining an awareness of the negative side.

One area that I have struggled with this in my life is when it comes to money.  After losing a really good paying job I never got back to that level of income and learned a lot about managing money ever since.  However, that process left me jaded against money and for a while I basically just hated money and wished that we could live without it.

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I had to learn how to put my focus in the right spot to fix my finances.

I focused so much on all the stresses of not always having enough money that it left me drained and frustrated.  As I continued to work on this problem I learned about being more grateful for the things that I do have in life and to let go the other stuff.  That is when things started to click for me and I started to see a change on the horizon.

The more I focused on the things that I could do with money that I had, the less stress I started to have over it.  On top of that I started making more money not long after and the more I appreciated it the more it came.  I learned that by living with the intent of being productive and grateful for what I had, I could create a life I wanted.

The Power of Intent

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Just like rolling up a snowball for a snowman, using the power of intent continued to build for me.

As this snowball continued to roll for me I experienced many “aha” moments and the one that shined the brightest was to live with the intent of being productive.  I started coming into each week and verbally telling not just myself, but those around me and in my social media that I was going to have a productive week.

Notice that I didn’t say that I was going to be productive at work, at home, or on any of my side projects…  I just said that I was going to be productive.  I chose to focus on this because when I am productive and have accomplished things, it makes me happy.

At first it was hard to notice, but as time went on and I continued down this path I could look back and see fantastic results!  Not only was I doing great at my sales job and earning extra commissions, I was also getting stuff done at home and on my side businesses.

The other amazing bit was that I went from not having enough time to work on everything, to having extra time on my hands.  I even started playing an online game again with my son and his friend.  Where was all of this time coming from though?  The reality was that I stopped wasting time dreaming about how I wanted my life to be and started living the life that made me happy.

Wishing, Wanting and Making it Happen

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Wishing upon a shooting star doesn’t get you very far!

This is the process that I actually went through as I made these changes in my life.  I went from wishing that I didn’t have to worry about money, to wanting to make more, and now I am just making it happen.  I just had to work through these different stages until I took control of my life.

Having a wish or desire like that is definitely okay and can help motivate us.  Many of us have all kinds of wishes about how we would like to live life.  The problem is though, that when we wish something was in our life, we are not taking any action to bring it to fruition.  The same could be said for wanting something as well.

In the end though, unless we take the reins of life and start to steer it in the direction we want to go, we will drift aimlessly though the sea of life.  Sure you could get lucky and your wishes and wants just happen into your life, but the odds are a longshot at best.

Keep Moving Forward

Book Review: Life on the Other Side by Sylvia Browne
Book Review: Life on the Other Side by Sylvia Browne

So what is the moral of the story here?  Well it is that by living with intent you are taking the bull by the horns and living the life that will make you happy.  Sometimes you need to just take a step forward, even if it is just a baby step it is still progress.

Sure we will still stumble along the way in this process, but even those mistakes are things that we can learn from.  If you haven’t already seen it, I would highly recommend that you read my article on The Importance of Learning from Mistakes.

As a matter of fact, there are a couple other articles that I have written that go very well with this subject.  In no particular order:

Also, one book that really helped me to turn the corner in life and start down this path that I have blazed is Life on the Other Side by Sylvia Browne.  If you are looking to live a more fulfilling life and one that can allow you to be happier, then I would definitely recommend that you check it out.  The link provided here will take you to my review of the book and the impact that it had on my life.

How Have You Brought Happiness into Your Life?

Before I go, I would like to ask you to share your story with us on how you have helped yourself live a happy life.  What was your “aha” moment or what methods work for you?  By sharing them here you can help to make a positive difference and with each comment shared we will make the world a better place.

Also, please feel free to ask questions whether here on the comment section or via email.  I will always do my best to give you an honest answer and provide whatever guidance that I may be able to.

Thanks for stopping by,

James W D
james@spiralrevolutions.com

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26 Replies to “How to Be Happy in Life – The Power of Living with Intent”

  1. I have to say this is a great article. You really seem to know what your talking about. I can’t stand sites that just put shiz together. Thanks so much, very uplifting for me, I needed this today 🙂

    • First off AJ, thank you. I work very hard at providing an in depth perspective on the articles I write and tie them into real life examples from my life. I am not looking to regurgitate information, but rather share my experience and my unique perspective.

      I am glad to hear that I was able to give you a boost with this article and you are very welcome. Whenever I get to hear back from someone like you and that I was able to help, it just warms my heart and lets me know that I am on the right path.

  2. Love all your 3 points here, focus, power of intent and action! I’ve learned that life can be a very miserable place when I allow situations or others to determine my happiness.

    To me…happiness is more like a choice that I continuously have to make and fight for every moment. A lot of people view happiness as more of passive thing that comes along with certain situations or as more of a future thing that we all are chasing for. I think that the more we proactively choose to be happy and grateful for where we are each day, we create happiness in our lives. The choice definitely requires all three things you mentioned above! Choose to focus on positivity over negativity, to live with intent and to act on it instead of passively waiting. Happiness is something that we have to put continuos effort on each moment of our lives, not relying on others or situations.

    I am not successful on this every moment. In fact, I often fall into a wrong consciousness and stop making the effort. What matters though, is to keep picking myself up from there and try again. I recently went through this process. Thanks for reminding me to move forward!

    • Young, thanks for stopping by again I always appreciate your comments as they are very thoughtful and inspiring.

      Yes you certainly need to keep all three points in mind as you move forward in life and it will require that you make a conscious effort to make these items into habits for yourself. As you progress through them you will see just like I have just how much of a difference this path can make in your life. Yes, sometimes you will fail but that is okay as they are learning moments that we need in order to grow (make sure to be thankful for these just as much as the positive stuff too, remember the silver lining!)

  3. Great post and a real eye opener.
    I used to find that I would get stressed because I was on a mission to achieve as much as I could from each day, I’d thought being so proactive would make me happier, the opposite happened, putting so much on my plate just made me stressed. Taking a step backwards and giving myself a chance to relax and breath made a big difference.
    But it is about finding a balance, do too much and your stressed, do to little you achieve nothing and become depressed. Would you agree?

    • Dan, Life is certainly about balance. Even too much of a good thing is not always a good thing. You need times of productivity mixed with times of relaxation in order to progress properly. I believe it is important to know your goals and what you are working on so that when you focus on productivity that you can make progress towards them. As the stress of the day begins to build though it is important then to take a break and do whatever it is the helps to relax yourself. This also helps when you get back to work as you will be refreshed and ready to be productive. It also helps to clear roadblocks that you may have been encountering as the break gave our minds time to ponder the problems and ways around them.

  4. Another great post James, I agree with you completely on what you said that we should focus on the good and still be aware of the negative. Most people make a mistake of trying to fight with the negativity which in turn adds up to their problems. If we could just accept things that are not in our favor without fretting about it, many of our problems will be solved naturally.

    Living with intent is a powerful thing and good to hear that you have now got some pretty good reasons to continue doing it.

    The truth is that our goal is always to achieve happiness, and as you mentioned we all want to be happy, but I think unconsciousness is what makes us to forget about our true goals.

    My answer to your question is – I have found that gratitude increases and magnifies the happiness in my life.

    There was a time when I used to do this by thinking of the best events in my life, moments when I achieved something big and also for future events where I will have what I want, but soon I realized that it was of no use, gratitude loses its power when someone does it without strong genuine feelings .

    Then I started to express my gratitude to the higher power for anything that makes me happy in my day (especially small beautiful moments) and from there I have really seen some great results.

    Thank you, keep up the good work!

    • Thanks for your kind words of wisdom Hari.

      When people fight with the negativity they are only empowering it by giving it their energy. Just like they say to never argue with an idiot as they will only reduce you to their level and then beat you with experience. This is why it is important to be aware of the negativity, but to focus on the positives.

      You are definitely right in that focusing on the little things in everyday life will get you much farther along then waiting for and appreciating just the big things. When you can appreciate the smallest details of life, that is when you truly will find your happiness.

  5. James,

    You continue to amaze and inspire me. I absolutely LOVE your “mantra” about being productive. And I intend to incorporate that into my own conscious (and subconscious!) mind. Ah, I just realized I gave an “intent”!

    And I like the focus on “productive” over “being busy.” I often ask people how they are, and they say, “Busy.” Like it’s a state of being or health. I have no objection to people having activities in their lives, but being “busy” for the sake of it seems unproductive to me. Better to have, as you point out, “intent” and be “productive.”

    Here’s my story and aha moment. It came during a very stressful and painful period. My first wife was dying of cancer. We knew she would pass, but now when. Because we knew, we received counseling. A chaplain came to our apartment, and spoke with us. I mentioned that it was difficult for me to not weep all the time, due to the predicament we were in. He told me that I should not block the tears, but to let the emotion flow through me. Otherwise I would be “stuck” in that one emotion, and couldn’t feel anything else.

    I took his advice, and wept immediately. And suddenly, a great weight was lifted from me. And I felt better. Happier. And my wife and I were able to share laughs about the difficulties this tragedy brought into our lives.

    I tried to share that knowledge with her family, but they could not accept it. They insisted on “putting on a brave face.” They resisted weeping because they wanted to make her feel better. But when my wife finally passed, they were emotionally unprepared.

    Thanks for another great and wise post. I look forward to your next one!

    Roger

    • Roger, I like how you got your first “intent” out there like that!

      Second, I totally understand what you are saying about people being “busy” and confusing that with being productive. I think I will save my full response to that for a whole post, but let’s just say that you hit the nail on the head there.

      Finally, your story. First off I would like to thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing such a personal story. I have never been in a situation like this with the exception of when my grandparents passed away (but they were both in their 90s so it was a bit different). I am so glad though that you were able to learn that lesson and to be able to spend your last moments with your wife in a more positive way. I hope that I to can be as brave as you were in that situation should it ever come to my life.

      Again, thank you for sharing and inspiring me further!

  6. Truly enjoyed reading your post! Just love the positivite, uplifting and inspirational vibe here on your site and the awesome content! Thanks for sharing, will def come back!

    • Evelyn, Thank you very much for your kind words, they are truly appreciated. My aim here is to help make the world a more positive and loving place to be, so when I hear comments like yours it is always a nice little validation of what I am doing. Looking forward to hearing from you again!

  7. Too many people rely on others to make them happy – the intention has to come from within but it isn’t always as easy as it sounds. Happiness is a gift that you don’t appreciate until it is gone. So many people view low mood as something you can just snap out of but it isn’t. As a doctor I’ve seen many patients with depression. One stands out for telling me that he’s experienced broken bones in the past and, given a choice, would rather have every bone in his body broken if he could stop feeling depressed. Cognitive behaviour therapy helped him to focus on the positive and greatly improved his self-esteem from where he could navigate his way back to happiness. Thanks for your post.

    • Your statement rings very true. All to often we rely on others to make us happy, but when that either doesn’t happen or isn’t available then what do we do?

      As for depression, I am very familiar with that subject. I suffered from seasonal depression where every Fall I would start down the lonely and depressed road. As I grew older and more wiser I worked hard at combatting that depression and eventually by focusing on the good things that I have in life and by being grateful for them I was able to overcome that annual visitor. There are still times where it tries to set in occasionally, but I have found that I am now more aware of when it tries to do so and am in a much better frame of mind to combat it.

  8. WOW! Well, I didn’t know what to expect when I began reading your article, James, but it has a powerful impact! I have had some major changes in my life that were totally out of my control stemming from my husband’s suicide 3 years ago this past Christmas. And I can tell you that every word you wrote really hit the target for me! I spent my life on an eternal rollercoaster of grief, depression, negativity, woe, etc for literally 3 years. It took me that long to finally realize that I HAD TO ADJUST and move on. Period. I have a life left to live, and now I am living again.
    Your article is superb, James!
    Thank you. I will be back.
    Rita

    • Rita, You are a strong and brave soul to live through such trials. Going through something like that is definitely one of the hardest things in life to deal with. However you are right now, you have life left to live and if you can’t let go of the past it will only drag you down underneath the waves. I am very happy to hear that you were able to realize that and make a conscious effort to move on. Thank you so much for sharing your story and I look forward to your return!

  9. James,

    This is an awesome website! I didn’t know that in order to be happy, you have to live with the power of intent! I always thought that we are either happy or we aren’t and there was nothing that we can do about it!

    Thanks for providing me with a new outlook on this thing called life. I wish you much success with this blog!

    • Unfortunately there are many out there that do believe that Theresa. They just drift through life and experience whatever they run into. While you can get lucky and land on the positive side of that journey, why not ensure your happiness by taking control of your life. By living with intent and applying your focus to the things that will make you happy, guess what? You have bettered your odds of obtaining that happiness!!

  10. This is a fantastic read. I think a lot of us struggle with the balance of life. I know I do, work, family, friends, activities… One thing that puts a lot of stress on me is having my heart geographically in two places.

    Being born and raised with all my family still in Sweden but being married to an american now living in the US… Missing my family and friends in Sweden is hard when I now live with my husband and kids thousands of miles away…

    I know focus on happiness is the way to go. Living in the moment, enjoying things right here and now is so important, Thank you for the reminder and great article,

    Vicky

    • Thank you very much for your kind words Vicky, I really appreciate it. I certainly can relate to a busy life between my family, friends, 9-5 job, and two businesses that I work on the side it is a wonder I have time at all. However now that I have my focus applied to the right areas it has freed up time for me.

      I can understand your dilemma with living so far away from your family, thankfully technology is helping to close those gaps of distance in today’s world. I am glad that you have learned how to focus on those positives though to help you through that trial.

  11. Hello James;

    I had a similar bump in the road like you explained that caused me to rethink the road I was traveling in life. As things progressed I was forced to focus the truly essential things in my life.

    Just like you when focusing on intent I started experiencing life changing results. Like you I was in the zone and things slowly began to go my way.

    I agree with you is believing once you begin to live with clear intent and focus the stars begin to aline in your favor over time. Thanks for the reminder.

    • Tony, thank you for sharing that you have had a similar experience in life.

      When you focus on the essential things that drive who you are you are setting yourself up for success. That focus means that you are taking steps to achieve your goal and not just wishing for them. As long as you are moving forward you will see the progress, especially when you look back over a larger period of time.

      Definitely need some patience and commitment to get started, but it doesn’t take long until the benefits kick in to help reinforce the behaviors.

  12. You have some very inspirational words here, my friend! What sticks out to me the most is – Focus on the positive and be aware of the negative.

    I think one of my biggest struggles has been not to dwell on the negative – oh, I use to be such a worrywart! But when I finally took the time to try to change my thinking and have a positive outlook, my life really started to improve. I stopped obsessing over the things I couldn’t change and you know what ? I started to see a change. I smile more, I laugh more, I enjoy just living in the “present”, Great points ! Really hits home.

    • That is pretty awesome Quinn, that line was actually the last thing that I added to the post as I felt like I had missed something and then it hit me on my final review. Glad to see that I had sensed that was needed there!

      You hit the nail on the head though, worrying about the negatives is just like watering the weeds in your garden. When you apply your focus to the positive you will see the changes happen in your life. Patience is a key virtue here as it takes time to get that snowball rolling at times. However, if you stick to it the results cannot be argued with!

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