It recently came to my attention that while I had a lot of good intentions with my life I was slightly off the path to where I wanted to be. I realized that creating the life you want to live requires more than wishful thinking and positive affirmations. There is a time proven process that we all follow as humans and after reading a recent book and some events in my life, I realized I had some work to do.
The Book That Got Me Back on Track
As funny as it may sound, the book that got me pointed back to the spiritual path that I wanted to be walking was Secrets of the Millionaire Mind, which I recently reviewed here. I had forgotten the new book I was reading but still had this one handy so I took it with me on my lunch break and started reading it again.
That is when a great synchronicity happened for me as I stumbled across the information that I really needed to see today. You see I had been thinking about writing a post today along the lines of being the change you want to see in the world. I had written one before (see the previous link) and wanted to expand on that topic and now here was exactly what I was already on the verge of writing about.
Very early in the book the Author gets into our programming that we receive as a child when it comes to money. He talks about the long known equation of TFAR which mean Thoughts lead to Feelings, Feelings lead to Actions and Actions equal results. He, however, added a P to the beginning stating that it is our Programming that first leads to our Thoughts.
A good example off this concept was a man that attended one of his courses that was struggling financially despite making $800k per year. No matter how much money he made, he only ever had enough to scrape by. You see when he was a child his mother loathed rich people and instilled the “programming” in him that anything extra after your expenses was just being greedy. This led him to wasting any extra money he had as deep down having an excess of it led him to a negative state of existence.
Recent Events Helped to Open My Eyes
Some recent events in life really helped to open my eyes that I was not quite on the path that I thought I was. I had started a process lately for myself where I would write down my values and my intentions based off of them. Then followed it up with what actions I wanted to take and also tracking my results. I wrote about this process in my article, What Seeds Did You Plant Today?
The tracking of the results really helps you to become accountable for your actions and this combined with the events going on in my life and the book I had read led me to an epiphany today. Often despite having good values and intentions we sometimes go off the path because of our emotions and programming that we have received in life. When I was re-reading about the programming today I realized that this is exactly what happened to me.
My emotions had reared up and as soon as that happened I did not follow my values and intentions, but rather defaulted back to the programming I had received earlier in my life. Instead of being the change that I wanted to see in the world, I veered off and my ego took center stage.
As hindsight kicked in though and I began to work on being accountable for the actions that I took I realized the mistakes that I had made, accepted them and have begun working on the process of learning from them. I am very thankful that I started this whole process at this point in my life or I might not have seen where I was in the wrong and very easily could have been led down the wrong path.
Accountability Equals a Program Update
As I ruminated over all of these concepts it dawned on me that when we are accountable for our actions that it actually helps us to update our programming. Accountability has a profound effect on our lives and truly helps us grow towards our core values.
In tracking the results that my actions provided, things started to come to light for me. I could see much more clearly what was happening in my life and how my emotions were clouding my values. With each new time that I tracked my results this became clearer and clearer to me that I needed to be much more mindful in life than what I have been.
When I started holding myself more accountable for my actions and results, I started to see change in my life. While it is still a process to work through and lessons would still need to be learned, I was on the right path. I started making changes to who I was and the programming that had been so long instilled into me.
Creating the Life You Want to Live
I have come to learn that to create the life I want to life for myself starts with examining what my values are in life and how I can live by them accordingly. Once you have determined what is important to you and you place your focus on that, life will start to give you the opportunities to go down that path.
A good example in my life is with my kids and helping them to be more responsible around the house. I have placed the Family value high up on my list and part of that value to me is to have a clean household for us all to live in. My intentions have been to work with the kids while doing chores so that they can learn better what needs done around the house.
As I began to focus on this topic, I started with including the kids with me when I was doing chores teaching them how and why we do certain things. I also explained to them that we as parents would have more free time to do other things with them if they helped more around the house.
This whole process led to very positive results for our family. The kids are now not only doing a better job on their normal chores but have also pitched in to help us with others as well. This is turn has also led to us taking time to go to the park or to play games together, basically more social time!
So as you can see by identifying my value, intentions, and actions along with recording the good and bad results, I was able to start making a positive change in my family and I’s life. There is less bickering about chores and more let’s get this done type attitude so that we can enjoy life more.
A Culmination of Thoughts
This article is a direct culmination of a couple other articles that I have written here along with the knowledge that has been imparted to me through my research and reading. If this article has you thinking now, I would highly recommend that you check out the other articles that has led up to this perspective:
- Be The Change You Want To See In The World
- What is the Most Important Thing in Life? Accountability
- How to Be Happy in Life – The Power of Living with Intent
- How to be Successful in Life
- Spiritual Journaling – The Power of Writing Things Down
- Book Review – Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker
- What Seeds Did You Plant Today?
I would also love to add your thoughts and perceptions to this article and I would ask that you leave them below in the comment section. As we continue to add our thoughts we help each other to further develop and grow in our spiritual journeys, so don’t be shy! Also, please feel free to ask any questions that you may have and I will do my best to get you all squared up.
Thanks for stopping by and I hope to see you back again another day!
James W D