Be The Change You Want To See In The World



You want to make the world a better place right?  Well, there is one simple way of doing this, be the change you want to see in the world.  If you live your life according to the Golden Rule, this is the best way of making a difference without infringing upon someone else’s rights.

I Want To Change The World

Using the Golden Rule, we can make the world a Golden place to live!
Using the Golden Rule, we can make the world a Golden place to live!

The whole reason you are finding this material to read is because I want to change the world and do my part to make it a better place.  I have learned in my life though that I cannot force change upon anyone else.  If I truly want someone to change the best thing that I can do is to be a positive example for them.  This shows them the benefits of my actions and allows for me to keep my Karma clean at the same time.

Too often many of us will fall into the trap of trying to change other people’s behaviors with a hands on approach.  This can easily lead to conflict between the two parties as well as only reinforcing their current behaviors now that they became defensive about them.  By being a good role model though for others around you, you lessen the chances of them being defensive and create a much better chance of opening their eyes to another path.

Being the Change

Humanity works off of scale like system, meaning that the more there is of something the more likely it is to rise and take the spotlight.  Many people wonder why today’s world is slipping into one of violence and sex.  Well you don’t have to look far to see why those things are becoming prevalent, just look on TV or scroll down through your favorite social media and you will see why.

Want to see more Love in the world? Start with your own example!
Want to see more Love in the world? Start with your own example!

More recently I have started to see a change in my social media as I have un-liked and blocked things that I just don’t want to see anymore.  Add in that I now follow more things that I would want to see as well as post things that are aligned with my more positive point of view.  I am being the change.

So if you want to see a world that is more loving, you need to be more loving.  If you want to see less violence, then you need to be more forgiving.  We get trapped in these cycles of violence and other bad behaviors, but when we chose to break those circles is when we truly show enlightenment.

A Detailed Example

To help get my message across here I would like to share a story with you of how I took a negative situation and with my positive example I changed it to a positive situation.

“I used to work in the mobile phone industry a few years ago and one night while working at our kiosk in the mall I was confronted with a very negative situation.

A gentleman walked up to the kiosk and told me that his phone was not working properly.  The smell of alcohol on him was very strong and he was not happy at all.  As he explained his problem, with an attitude, I stayed positive and smiled the whole time.  Then I took his phone and went over to a computer where I knew how to fix it.

While I was fixing it he proceeded to mess up all of our business cards and otherwise clutter our front counter.  Alas though, I ignored the bad behavior and continued to fix his phone for him.

When I was done I took it back to him and we did some tests to make sure that it was working properly for him and it was.  I will never forget what happened next as his stare went from his phone to me and he said, “I’m sorry.  I have been nothing but an <Bleep> and all you did was fix my phone for me.”  He even stuffed a $20 bill in my shirt pocket as a tip (after I refused to take it willingly)”

Just like the batteries here, my positive side stood tall above the negative side.
Just like the batteries here, my positive side stood tall above the negative side.

As you can see here I wanted to live in a world with more respect and when faced with someone disrespectful I had a choice to make.  I made a conscious choice to be the change that I wanted to see in the world and not let his negativity drag me down.  By the end of the transaction my positivity had overcome his negativity and a change for the better happened for him.

This was one of those big life moments for me where I was able to learn myself through my own example.  As I said this is one of those things that will stick with me forever as a reminder to myself to be the change and to stick with my ethics.  I can only hope that this gentleman too took what he learned and used it to create a better life for himself moving on.

What Changes Do You Want to See?

Now that we have discussed the basics here, I would love to hear what positive changes you would like to make in the world and what examples you are setting to make it happen.  Remember the more positive examples that we can bring to this world the better chances are that they will rise and take the spotlight.  Please use the comment section below to tell us all what you are doing and how you are going about it!

Thank you,

James W D

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14 Replies to “Be The Change You Want To See In The World”

  1. Yes, I agree completely … it is best to start with the man in the mirror, as the song says. I read somewhere recently that going out and doing good deeds is not as important as modeling positive behavior as we go about our day. that is debatable.
    Not too long ago I asked a group of young people if they knew the golden rule. I was shocked to discover that none of them had ever heard of it.
    What a world this would be if we all lived by that rule.

    • They say that a chain is as strong as it’s weakest link.  This is why it is so important for us to start with ourselves and to radiate out from there.  Take care of yourself, Do good deeds for others as this not only helps them, but also yourself.

      As for the golden rule, yes please share the knowledge of this as it could help us make this world so much a better place.

  2. I love the positivity of this post! One of the biggest factors I’ve found in successfully ‘being the change’ is to make big change out of small actions. Large doors swing by small hinges. By taking small steps each day, you can create massive change in your life and the lives of those around you.

    • You are very correct about Large doors swing by small hinges. With each small change you make you become a better example for all of those around you as well. With each step that we take as a collective, we are closer to enlightenment as a species.

  3. Hi James
    This is exactly what we need these days, stop seeing other faults and focus on yours.

    It needs a huge amount of courage and will to admit that you are wrong in certain situation or that you have a bad habit that you should change it in your character.

    I’m saying this because one example I had before, I used to be very nervous person few years back, it’s something comes in your nature, meaning that it’s not easy to change it or control it, but it took me several years to become very calm person now.

    This single change increased the positive moments in both my life and the life of every one around me.

    The main idea is; dig in yourself, analyze the negative things in you and work hard on changing it into the attitude you like others to have with you.

    Thank you for this great post.

    • Thanks for sharing your story Daria. I used to be a very anxious person back when I was a child and up to mid way through high school. It wasn’t until an oddball moment happened to were everything changed for me, but I will share that story in an upcoming post, so stay tuned!

  4. I’m really amazed by your story because I wouldn’t have thought a drunk person would be able to realize his behavior in the moment and then apologize for it.

    I have also gone the route of trying to change others but I finally accepted that the person has to want the change for himself. You really can’t make someone change.

    The change I’d like to see in the world is for people to be nicer to each other and more honest. I think being honest would prevent a lot of problems.

    • Martina,

      Yeah it was pretty amazing when he realized what he had been doing and how I had not let it effect me. I will never forget that precise moment when he looked me in the eyes during that realization.

      You cannot force a change onto someone else and have it be genuine. However, when you do lead by example and show the positive benefits of your actions you can then get those real changes in others.

      That is great what you want to see the world to be more like, just remember that it all starts with you!

      James W D

  5. Hi James,

    I am loving this site and I can see you would fit in perfectly in Thailand. Let me explain Thai society. The people seldom get angry, no matter what happens, Very passive non aggressive society

    Often in Thailand, like on a daily basis you’ll hear the words “mai pen rai” (no problem). When someone get aggressive, the other seldom raises to the occasion and get aggressive. There is this thing of saving face, It is seen that the person getting angry is the one who is losing face, so inorder to not lose lose face the remain calm, smile and are very unaffected by such behavior. It is the other (the aggressor) that is seen as the bad person, the one who is doing wrong.


    • Hey Derek,

      Let me start by saying that one of my dream vacations is to visit Thailand and more specifically the Buddhist Tiger Temple. While I do not prescribe to any one specific religion there are a lot fo positive traits to Buddhism.

      It is also great to hear that the country has a much better view on behaviors such as being aggressive. I truly hope that I can find more places in the world like that!

      James W D

  6. Hi James,

    Thanks for the great article – good opportunity to think about the positive thinking, how I want to see the world differently.

    It’s difficult sometimes, although the mobile sales man’s story is moving – what if the drunken man hadn’t apologised but continued to be rude? People take advantage and sometimes you never see your effort for a long time. But still, your article is very encouraging, makes me realise it is only you who can change yourself, not others.

    Thanks again for the great site.

    • Ray,

      First off, you are welcome! I am glad that I was able to get the wheels turning for you a bit.

      Yes, it is certainly difficult at times, I will be the first to admit that. However the more we work on it the easier it becomes for us until it becomes second nature.

      You can always play the What If game, but all that does if give credit to things that did not even happen and generally lowers your mood by worrying about them. When it comes to worrying, I always tell people that it is just like watering the weeds and why would you want to do that? Better off to focus on the now and precisely what happened right?

      James W D

  7. Hi James,
    I know what you mean about social media. It has become a hot bed of a lot of negativity and controversy. I have tried very hard in the last 2 years to keep everything I have in social media to be as positive as I can make it. I keep out anything that can be controversial and I unfollow anyone who has negative or controversial things popping up on their pages. In this, I hope to create a positive and fun atmosphere with my social media especially since I have reached out and made friends with people from around the world. I want them to see how good and positive I am and hopefully they will be my friends.

    • Jessica, that is a great start for you in making a positive difference. Almost every social media has a way to adjust what you are seeing. I know I use Facebook’s hide post a lot and I always take the time to tell it why too. Sometimes it can feel a bit overwhelming but if you keep at it you will create a much more positive atmosphere for you to enjoy.

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